Men’s Ministry

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CONTACT:
Alex Sgoutas, (203) 762-8837, alex77@optonline.net 
Joe O’Callaghan, (203) 847-0321, jocallaghan@optonline.net
 
Have you ever thought, “It would be good to have a group of friends to help me stay the course and assure me that I am not alone in my effort to live a good Catholic life?”

As they have done since September 9, 2007, every Saturday morning, from 7:00 AM to 8:30 AM, men gather in the St. Jerome hall to hit the “pause button” on life. As one week ends and another begins, led by our pastor, we meet for a brief 90 minutes to share their stories and to give and receive perspective, insights, and guidance for becoming better husbands, fathers, grandfathers, sons, workers, and members of the community.

Every sixth week the men hold a structured prayer session in the church sanctuary followed by a discussion of the prayer in the church hall. Examples of Men’s Ministry readings and questions are below. The bottom of this page offers several reflections the men have had about the inherent spirituality in their everyday life experiences.

During Lent 2009 a number of the men contributed prayers they say often – some composed by themselves, some from books, cards, or the Internet – to a Men’s Ministry Prayer Book. The need for prayer, the power of prayer, and how they are doing with praying comes up frequently at Men’s Ministry meetings, especially during Lent.

Mission Statement

The St. Jerome Society, Men of Faith and Action, is designed to help parish men of all ages realize what it means to be a Catholic man today. The group’s primary mission is to help men enrich their relationships with Jesus Christ and apply their faith to their daily lives.

The men work to achieve these goals by joining in small groups to discuss their successes and struggles, praying together, studying the Sacred Scripture, and holding each other accountable to their Christian values by the way they live their lives. Through this fellowship, they learn that they are capable of realizing and committing to their true priorities, and living that commitment. In fostering this, the St. Jerome Society, Men of Faith and Action, strives to bring its members closer to God, their families, the community, and each other.

If you would like to meet other men facing the challenges of being Catholic in today’s world, we invite you to join us and see what we’re all about. If you would like more information, please get in touch with one of the Contacts listed below.

From a Translator article on the Men’s Ministry

Bob Saraceni, who founded the group, says, “Our purpose is to realize our enormous capacity to connect to God through each other in a way that is unique to men. Through the stories and discussions shared we can live more vibrant spiritual lives, become better husbands, fathers, grandfathers, workers, Catholics, Christians and members of the community. We meet every Saturday from 7:00 AM to 8:30 AM and we stick to that schedule so we’re home early and our meetings don’t interfere with weekend family activities. We select a topic for discussion over a six week period. At the beginning of each new session we have a catered breakfast to change it up and socialize a bit more.”

“I think the big success here is the unique weekly experience we’re having, and the candor of the conversations. This is not a timid group and we tackle real issues, so the discussions are spirited… no pun intended. We have guys with young families, men who are approaching mid-life, and retired men with grandchildren. The group offers a wide range of life experience and insight.”

Examples of Men’s Ministry Readings and Questions

For the first three years of the Men’s Ministry six-week discussion cycles revolved around a particular theme, such as “Attitude Adjustment: Down but Not Out” or “Men At Work: Performance Anxiety.” A typical meeting begins with a Scripture that is e-mailed to the membership on Thursdays, such as Mathew 20:1-16, the Workers in the Vineyard, for a discussion titled, “Who Is the Boss?” At Saturday’s meeting the group tackles three questions inspired by the reading, in this case: 1. What role does work play in your life? Is it in balance? 2. In your dealings with God are you a bargainer or a truster? 3. What changes would you like to make in the work part of your life?
Examples of some previous discussion cycles are available here.

From mid-2010 until mid-August 2012 the format changed to using the next day’s Sunday Gospel, sometimes the First or Second Reading, and occasionally personally-chosen Scripture passages, as the jumping-off point for questions related to “The Challenge of the Sacred in Everyday Life.” In late summer 2012 a five-man rotation began writing the discussion questions based on the Sunday Gospel, or on selected Scripture passages, or on prayers or meditative writings that each of the five men personally chose in turn. Every sixth Saturday the men hold a prayer service in the church sanctuary, followed by a discussion of the prayer service in the church hall.

Both the readings and discussion questions for 2010 are available in this pdf.

Men’s Ministry Reflections

From time to time the men of the Men’s Ministry share their reflections in writing. These honest and revelatory reflections often revolve around the inherent spirituality in everyday life experiences.

On October 23, 2009 twelve of the men from St. Jerome’s Men’s Ministry gathered at The Joques Retreat House in Cornwall, NY. This video is a meditative, pictorial depiction of their retreat. The Cornwall retreat was held annually from 2009 through 2012.

An extended reflection on the meaning and impact of the three days of the Triduum (Holy Thursday, Good Friday, and the Easter Vigil) by a member of the Men’s Ministry is available here.

After the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting deaths of 20 six- and seven-year old children and six adults in Newtown, CT on December 14, 2012, one of the Men’s Ministry men shared his reflections and feelings in an essay, “Searching for the Light in the Darkness,” that he shared in hopes that it might help find a way forward.
Lenten Losers
In 2009 and 2010, as an effort to sacrifice during Lent and improve their health, the men of the Men’s Ministry started an eight-week Lenten Losers program. All in the parish were invited to reach weight loss goals during Lent and/or to sponsor a particular Lenten Loser with a pledge of $1.00 (or more!) a pound to be used to provide meals to the needy, particularly groups like Malta House (a shelter for young, unwed mothers) and Home for The Brave (a veterans half-way house in Bridgeport). In the program’s first year $505 was donated to each. A full description of the program is here.